Friday, January 20, 2023

Scriptures That Have Shaped Me - All are good. All have sinned.

Genesis 1:27, 31 “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.…God saw all that he had made, and it was very good indeed.”


Romans 3:23 “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”


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A few months ago, I had the idea for a blog series exploring scriptures that stand out to shape my worldview. We’ll see how far I get into this ‘series’–for all I know, this could be a standalone post! Or it might take another six months for me to drum up the next instalment. Whatever the future brings, I'd like to start at the beginning.


The very beginning.


In that very first beginning of life, the Bible says that “God created mankind in his own image”, and that everything he had made “was very good indeed.” Creativity, order, and the capacity to love are all among the characteristics that we were imbued with from the very first beginning of humanity, as part of this inherent goodness of being made in the image of God.


That means: to be human is to be good. To be human is to be creative, organised (in some fashion, at least!), and able to love. That’s not just me, that’s not just Christians or certain cultures or classes of people. That goes down to the very core of what it means to be human. 


But then, of course, there was ‘The Fall’, that whole debacle with the serpent and the apple, a defining moment in history where its very trajectory was changed for the worse. Since then, as Paul describes in Romans, “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”


That means: to be human is to fall short. To be human is to be broken, messy and selfish. That’s not just the people that feature in my political diatribes after a long day or pedofiles or the driver who just cut me off. ‘The Fall’ has infected the core of every single human.


This infection hasn’t undone God’s creation. They exist together. In every single human. It has often been said that Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn said it best when he said, “The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either -- but right through every human heart -- and through all human hearts.”


When I was a teenager, I couldn’t get enough of those classic tales of good vs. evil, watching the goodies defeat the baddies with intellect, power and perhaps some impeccably-timed, unexpected kindness. As I have continued on the path of life, it has been interesting to see these characters with greater complexity, sometimes in their portrayal and sometimes in my own understanding. Each is not simply good or evil, but all are a bit of both. 


Like in these portrayals, the real battle doesn’t take place between people, or between groups of people, but rather within each of us. Much of the time, we are swimming against doubt or fear or desire or rage when we are trying to make the best choice, the right choice. To see characters who fight those very battles and come through them for the better can give us the courage to carry on when we need to. Likewise, such portrayals of those who have ‘gone wrong’ can give us a fatalistic view of our own outlooks, and it is important to acknowledge that this can be very damaging indeed.


But this perspective doesn’t just prompt me to look for realistic heroes in epic stories that can help me to strengthen my resolve. It shapes how I think about people who are like me and people who are not like me, humans that we all are. And even in the simplest interactions, it encourages me to have humility as I consider my own heart, and to be deeply aware of the impact that I have on others. Am I building up love and courage in this fellow human, or am I driving this person to bitterness and pain? Am I expressing the image of God or the brokenness of sin today? 


I’m not looking for a pat on the back or a pile of shame as I reflect – rather, a realignment to aim for the very best I can be as the human that I am. 


But, of course, that's a whole other kettle of fish. Let’s hope I get a chance to write more about that in a future post!


Monday, June 13, 2022

Seven Years

We all have moments from time to time where we uncover a piece of the past, pick it up, dust it off, and perhaps remember how useful or beautiful or fun it used to be.

Well, today, this blog is it. 

I had to trawl through six years of my Facebook feed to find it, because I’ve changed computers since I last posted and it is no longer in my Bookmarks. Six years.

That’s right, my friends. We have been in London for seven years now. Seven years, two kids, one post-graduate qualification and three apartments (flats!) after moving here, I am writing again. 


In fact, I didn’t exactly stop writing in August of 2016, at least not immediately. I had big plans for writing about our experience walking the West Highland Way with a toddler on our backs. It was going to be AWESOME, friends! But…the plans were too big, and then I was expecting Baby #2, and then we had to move to Flat #2, and then I had a toddler, and more visitors, and the new baby, and eventually…I forgot. Not even being stuck indoors for months during a global pandemic managed to remind me of the travel blog of my earlier days!*


So here we are, back at seven years. 


The thing about being here for seven years is that this place kind of has become home. Or at least, a home. I reached the point ages ago when I couldn’t tell whether someone was speaking in a London accent or an American accent. In fact, I’ve since begun to notice how nasally my home accent can be, and I can’t deny that my own speech is noticeably transatlantic, especially when I first land in the States for a visit. 


But a home isn’t made out of a language. It is forged by an identity. A belonging. I will always be an American and will hold a deep love and appreciation for my friends and family in the US–moving abroad has made that utterly and unequivocally clear to me. But time and friendships and memories have dug into the ground here, too, and formed roots. I may still be useless at quiz nights, but the Christmas crackers now elicit the expected eyerolls, and the local political satire yields a chuckle. I’ve developed an overall sense of the geography of the UK (useful, because that postgraduate qualification was in teaching primary school…) and, to be completely honest, I have shifted from being embedded in American politics to side-eyeing Boris Johnson…again. 


In so many ways, I cannot relate to the American experience anymore. Is this what it means to be an expat? An immigrant? Perhaps. But I have reached the point where this country fails to feel foreign to me–I am no longer an excellent tour guide, alas, because everything just feels so…normal. Like home.






*Although I did write some music! Which might be a topic that comes up again at some point in a future post.


Thursday, August 18, 2016

The California Zephyr, Part II: Transcontinental

Two weeks in Chicago, not a single snowflake. Dire illness, bitter cold, yes. But no snow.


The day we leave? The remains of a massive ice storm, uncharacteristic for Chicago, pelts inches of crunchy snow at us as we trudge the three city blocks from Ogilvie Transportation Center to Union Station in Chicago, even unintentionally eliciting the aid of a friendly mother-son duo who insist on us letting them help us with our bags. We must look pretty pathetic. But that’s the Midwest for you–don’t try to be Superman, because if you do, someone is going to help you anyway.


After checking our bags and catching lunch with a dear friend, we wind our way through the recesses of Union Station, directed by the wonderfully patient security guards, to our platform.


We’re riding in the cheap seats, coach. We show a conductor our tickets on the platform, and he assigns us seats, writing their numbers and the station code of our destination on a small sheet of paper. We leave our larger carry-ons on a rack on the lower level and head up the stairs with our personal items. Ten minutes and a new seat assignment later, our remaining luggage is stowed overhead and we wait.


On a Superliner, the coach cars are directly behind the engines, with the lounge car and dining car in the middle, and the sleeper cars at the end. As a coach rider, the top floor is the party floor–not literally, but it’s where life happens. The cars are only linked via the top floor, and the lounge and dining car are on the upper level as well. The toilets are downstairs, and the snack bar is below the lounge car, but in the middle of winter the bottom floor is dark and drafty, convenient if you have difficulty on the steps, but dreary otherwise.


Our seat-assignment cards are clipped to the overhead luggage racks, and as we glance around, we notice a pattern. These are the long-haulers. The personalities occupying this car will be with us until Salt Lake or further. And, of course, our little man is the biggest personality of them all.


As the clock strikes 2PM, the train commences. As we pull out of the station, we're surrounded by graffitied walls and occasional glimpses of Chicago's industrial underbelly. We take the opportunity to scope out the snack bar's offerings and get acquainted with the family restroom downstairs.


Before long, the sun fades and the warehouses give way to field and hedges, all darkness outdoors save for the occasional obliging streetlamp or barnyard floodlight. In these moments, we see ice-encrusted twigs shimmering in the light, and the world is covered ever more thickly in nature's diamonds as the storm rages on.


Inside, we set into the dinner we've packed and then head down to the family restroom to start the bedtime routine and change into pajamas.


Sleeping on the train shouldn't be terrible, as we've brought a pillow to help us manage the little man on our laps, and the reclining seats are spacious and the foot rests are adjustable.


Except that it was pretty terrible, at least for Soren and I. Because the train stops throughout the night, an overhead light needs to stay on so that passengers can easily board and leave the train, and that light is perfectly positioned to shine its understated glare directly into our eyes. We finally rig up a little curtain using a scarf tied to the overhead baggage shelf, but while we are able to keep the little man quiet, it would be a stretch to call the night’s sleep “restful”.


Luckily, we didn’t opt for coach seats with a 5-month-old with expectations for a refreshing sleeping experience! When the little man wakes up, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at 6AM, we rejoice in the fact that he is well rested, and stake out a table in the observation lounge, where the little man can babble to his heart’s delight and we can watch the sun come up.


As the day breaks, we’re in the outskirts of Denver. Every few hours, the train makes a long stop usually 20-30 minutes, during which restless passengers can get some fresh air (Or smoke. Mostly smoke.) We look longingly to the West, eager for the next stage of our journey: the mountains.


After what feels like hours, the train slowly pulls out of Denver, making its way through the rest of the city and back and forth across a series of huge switchbacks, pushing its way up the foothills of the Rocky Mountains. Once we’ve made the climb, we plunge into the mountains, quite literally–in the first 50 miles past Denver, there are 31 tunnels on the Zephyr’s route, culminating in the 6.2-mile Moffat Tunnel. There is a reason why tunnels this long are rare, aside from the practicality of building them, of course: there is no way to properly circulate the air at the heart of the mountain. Thus, our conductors make it exhaustively clear that we need to refrain from moving between cars to avoid bringing toxic fumes on board.


Between these tunnels, the scenery changes. No longer are we looking out over the vast Plains of middle America–now we are skating along the sides of ever-taller peaks, deep green forests dotting their slopes and vast blue lakes gracing their valleys. The horizon is a distant memory as these gargantuan hills surround us, and all concept of scale is lost.


Still we continue, and a few miles after Moffat Tunnel we join up with the Colorado River, our constant companion through the Rockies. Our route follows this unassuming trickle of water through gorges and across alpine expanses. Bolderous outcroppings, distant snow caps and layered red rocks each take their turns in dominating our surroundings, our trusty river ever by our side. We catch a glimpse of eagles, nesting in a tree along its shore, and extensive networks of snow tracks indicate that they’re not the only living creatures in this cold, wild place.


Dotted along the way are little hamlets and hidden winter parks. Back in our seats by now, Soren and I take turns holding the little man while he naps, and read him books when he wakes up. When he gets really antsy, we take him for walks or hold him over our heads so that he can use his coos and smiles to win over the hearts of our neighbors. This works wonderfully to cheer him up, except for when he tries to swoon the young ladies across the aisle–they don’t fall for him, and he turns back to us, wailing in disappointment over his unrequited affections. This happens at least half a dozen times, but his delicate feelings are salvaged by the appreciative encouragement from other passengers who had slept peacefully the night before.


We claim another table in the observation car and soon find ourselves in conversation with a woman who regularly rides the rails because of its environmental sustainability. We all agree that we love this space because it is bright and cheery–essentially the train’s patio, the best place to enjoy the sights. The scenery isn’t the only thing worth watching here–we also have the opportunity to observe the train’s strongest characters in their finest. Whether it’s the outgoing, market-speculating retiree, the ultra-liberal evangelist, the lego-building family, the thoughtful watercolorist, or that one guy who decides that this, of all places, is the prime spot for a nap, this is where the people of the train congregate, and it’s lovely.


Almost as soon as the foothills are behind us, the sun fades and we commence the nightly ritual of the diaper-change, pajamas, and ear-infection-fighting antibiotics downstairs. The family bathroom was definitely a godsend–it allowed Soren and I to tag-team on managing the little man and getting ourselves changed (which not everyone does, but it’s fantastic for morale). It’s really nothing fancy, though. The restrooms can probably be best described as a cross between an airplane restroom and a port-a-potty. They’re small (the family one has an extra tiny room attached) and have wall handles so that you don’t fall over on the next bend or bump in the tracks, but sometimes they’re great, sometimes they stink, and sometimes they’re missing...something. The germaphobe would likely want to bring their own supply of hand sanitizer (and maybe a small roll of toilet paper or wet wipes, if they’re really grossed out by things), but we had a ready stock of helpful items in the diaper bag, so we were able to adapt easily when there were shortages.


Night Number Two is not quite as smooth as the first, however the little man has already skillfully charmed our neighbors, so nobody seems to hold it against us too much. In my own restlessness, I decide that I’d love to do this trip again in the summer–the longer days would allow us to see twice as much scenery our December adventure, and I’m endlessly curious about what is outside the window.


We opt to have a hot breakfast in the dining car on our last day, and we enjoy both the food and the company. One of our companions has a friend who lives near Reno and calls her to see if they can meet up at one of the stops. As she runs toward her car to prepare to catch her friend, we stare in awe as the foothills of the Sierras rise around us, the early morning sun dressing them in every shade of pink.


The Sierra Nevada is special to both of us–it was the first big, snowy mountain range that either of us had ever experienced. The Sierras are not jagged or fragile–they are vast granite monoliths covered in ancient green forests. We stare lovingly through the window for hours, enjoying views of forested valleys and cloud-topped peaks opposite us. We enjoy the patterns of wetter, heavier snow that covers our surroundings as we wonder whether there have ever been any other mountains as breathtaking as these.


Such joy, however, cannot last forever. Before long, the little man decides that he is very much done with trains, and we discover that one of our phones was uploading photos via 3G last night. By the time we leave these gorgeous mountains, we are taking deep breaths and reading all of the children’s books we’ve brought, over and over, and then resorting to the little man’s favorite downtime activity, selfies.


By the time we meet the water’s edge, the flurry of activity has begun–the final destination approaches, and we will soon say farewell to our compatriots and join our loved ones in Emeryville. We gather our belongings. Soren helps a Monterey native order his first Uber car. We take one last trip to the family restroom. And we soak in our final moments on this wonderful adventure, having discovered that our backup flight (the one we'd scheduled in case we chickened out of the train plan) was cancelled due to the Chicago ice storms. We are overjoyed that we chose to spend our time seeing some of the best of America, because the alternative would have involved plenty of waiting and dangerous driving, but no mountains to enjoy or new people to charm or crazy faces in the bathroom mirror to giggle at. We are so glad that we decided to do this crazy thing.


And then, in the blink of an eye, we have arrived, completely confused as to where to find our checked bags, but excited for the little man to finally meet FarMor and FarFar, 51 hours after departing from an icy Chicago.

A Merry Christmas indeed!

Sunday, June 26, 2016

The Last Weekend

Shock. Polls had been moving steadily toward leaving the EU for some time, but then Jo Cox was murdered in front of a library in Leeds and the campaigning stopped for two days in the week leading up to the vote.

The Remain campaign now had a martyr, and the investment bankers, the “bookies”, took the following silence as a change of heart. Mistook.

And so did I, to be honest. The experts were clearly Remain, the Leave campaign seemed shady at best, and you would think that, after the events of the past ten years, no country in its right mind would vote to destabilize their economy, Europe's economy, the world economy, just to lose their say in the formation of EU regulations that they still wouldn’t escape.

I heard the word immigration thrown around a lot, because immigrants tend to be sensitive to that kind of thing, but I never really understood why--Europe's single market is predicated upon the free movement of workers. A change would never be allowed, not without great cost. And what's more, with a million British pensioners (retirees) living in Spain, deportation of EU nationals would mean bringing them back--and adding a lot of pressure to an already under-resourced NHS.

In the end, I hoped for a Remain vote, because we're paid in pounds and our student loans are in dollars, and the first and surest effect of a Leave vote was going to be a weaker pound.

So yeah. Shock.

I wasn't the only one caught in disbelief--nearly all of London was majority Remain. The Remain sentiment was so strong here that the pound, after being down to around $1.40 in anticipation of the vote, was up to $1.50 by midnight on voting day.

When I woke up, it was $1.33.

Thank God we beat the crowds in moving money early--with the rates up and the surrounding uncertainty, Transferwise* was bombarded with requests. They completely shut down on Thursday and Friday. American expat forums were filled with people kicking themselves, wondering whether they should still move their funds before it went any lower.

And then David Cameron resigned. What??? Soren heard about it from his coworkers, and that's when we decided to buy a TV license**. How do you deal with a public catastrophe except to glue your eyes to the television? I must have watched some segments a dozen times on Friday, but I don't care. In fact, I needed to. I needed the truth to sink in. I needed to see people who were angry, people who were calm, people who were hopeful, the people who were going to lead my country of residence through this mess. I needed to move beyond panic, to understand why anyone would do something so obviously stupid, to get an idea of what comes next.

Two years, a two-year period that the Prime Minister told us he can trigger when a new leader is in place and ready to negotiate. October, he said, would be a good time for that, at least for Britain.

Two years means that, of our five-year visa, at least half of it will elapse in a time of uncertainty and what may be bitter negotiations, both within Britain and beyond it.

Then Nicola Sturgeon announced that Scotland may hold another vote about whether to leave the UK. Scotland was completely majority Remain, 62% for the whole country. Many Scots are angry, regretting that they didn't vote for their own independence when they had the chance two years ago.

I understood the sentiment--I was angry too. I love London, and it is not in spite of the people. But the whole vote, even the fact that it happened, seemed selfish in the face of the refugee crisis and terror concerns. Every inbred prejudice my Yankee heart harbors against England bubbled to the surface--but then, plenty of English people felt that way too.

And those that voted Leave did so for a variety of reasons--some because of (probably false) anti-immigration propaganda, but others because they’ve seen the junior doctors driven to protest because they’re underpaid and overworked, and others because the EU is not strictly a democratic institution. They wanted to take control, to have a say in how to handle immigration and trade relations and funding. Many view it as a declaration of independence.

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The figure on this Vote Leave bus was revealed to be false on Friday
I understood that too, and I pitied those who were dismayed and regretful when Nigel Farage revealed that some of the Vote Leave adverts were definitively misleading. I pitied all of the UK, that such a decision that was rooted in so many lies and half-truths and undeliverable promises, on both sides of the debate.

In the afternoon, we went for a walk, discussed whether we should stop investing, whether we should start packing our bags, where we would even go if we left. Wait and see, we concluded, because we love London. We love London in a way that we’ve never loved a home before. Still, I quietly rejoiced that our lease has elapsed and we aren’t tied down.

By Friday evening, the pound had recovered slightly, and the stock markets reflected the same small dip up. A breath. Inhale, exhale. In, out.

The BBC made it clear that a unified front would be the only way to stifle the worst of disasters, and they convinced me. They emboldened me, and gave me hope. Hope, until the markets open again and the Tories start competing for the top spot and prices start climbing. Hope, until the EU leaders’ summit decides how they’re going to respond and the reality of the long slog of the next three years settles in and companies start reshuffling their staff.

Hope, for this: the last weekend.

The last weekend where a United Kingdom outside the European Union is still a blinding shock.






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**A fee for watching live feed that allows BBC channels to produce quality content ad-free. We were going to buy one for the Olympics anyway

Friday, June 17, 2016

The California Zephyr, Part I: Train Brain

Through the darkness, clickety-clack…
Coming closer, down the track…
Hold your breath so you can hear
Huffing, chuffing, drawing near.
  -Steam Train, Dream Train by Sherri Duskey Rinker & Tom Lichtenheld

November is dark in England. Whereas I think of “winter” as being mid-December through mid-March in Chicago, the depth of our first winter here seemed to span from early November through early February. That meant that during the dark and wet and chilly days of November, I was planning a trip.

Like, a big trip. At first, it was going to be a quick dive to somewhere fanciful and romantically wintry like Hallstatt, Austria. Then, we found out that Soren was going to have to go to Berlin.

And then, we had our first snow.

Now, the snow itself was terrible, anti-climactic, laughable even--a thin sheen of slush barely visible on the neighboring rooftops. But during the first snowfall of every year, I look up the YouTube video for the song “Snow” from White Christmas, because how else do you keep the romance alive?

Snow, Those glist'ning houses that seem to be built of snow
Snow, Oh, to see a mountain covered with a quilt of snow
  -”Snow”, Irving Berlin’s “White Christmas” (Watch on YouTube)

And guess where our beloved songsters are when they sing that song? ON A TRAIN! And a sleeper train at that!

Add to this that I was reading the delightful book “Steam Train, Dream Train” to Aksel every day (and the fact that I hadn’t flown with Aksel yet and was accordingly terrified of the prospect), and we had a plan: we were going to get Eurail passes and take a monster train trip through as many scenic routes as possible in Europe, beginning with a few days in Berlin and then traversing to everywhere beautiful and spending lots of time in the Alps!

Because two years ago, I finally learned that the best way to survive winter is to embrace it. How better to do so than to soak in the Black Forest and Salzburg and the Swiss Alps on a cozy train? Heck, why not add Vienna as well???

I cannot describe the manic obsession that overtakes me when I get an idea. It’s actually kind of a problem at this stage in my life, because I think Aksel does appreciate my attention from time to time, so when my eyes are glued to my computer as I look up train timetables and hotels, working out schedules and budgets, my “good mom” status definitely takes a hit.

“But Janel,” you say, “you didn’t mention the train or the Alps in your post about Berlin. What happened?”

In the midst of my train-mania, I was trying to book flights for our Christmas travels in the States, and I was dismayed at the cost of Christmas-week flights from Chicago to California. I decided to poke around and see just how expensive a train ride would be.

Now I'm transcontinental
3000 miles from my home
I'm on the California Zephyr
Watching America roll by
  -”California Zephyr” by Jay Farrar and Ben Gibbard (Listen on YouTube)

The prices of trains were definitely competitive with the cost of flights, and if we changed our dates by a day or two, we could go direct from Chicago to Emeryville, CA on the California Zephyr, which has a whole, beautiful song written about it. We booked it. We also booked a flight, in case we decided it was crazy (both were flexible fare options), and decided that this could be a great way to test out the train before the monster Europe trip.

The flight and the train would both set out on December 28th. Fast forward to the week of Christmas, during which Aksel got ridiculously sick (and before which we forgot to buy travel insurance, which was a very expensive mistake), and we were torn. To fly, or to ride the rails?

On December 27th, we had to make a decision. We decided to take the 52-hour train trip, and in our next post, I’ll explain why that was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made.

Saturday, May 7, 2016

Wintry Wanderings

Our first two post-birth European excursions happened this past winter--first, we went to Edinburgh during Christmas season to see a friend who had been in the area for her studies, and then we spent a few days in Berlin for Soren’s work in late January. Our experiences could not have been more different.

Edinburgh

Hello, Scotland! -4-month-old Aksel
Everything that the light touches is...Scotland!
Edinburgh is a city for romantics--as you walk down the streets of Old Town you feel that you're being hugged by the aged buildings, and you begin to truly understand Gothic architecture for the first time. The gray structures tower against the overcast backdrop and suddenly the whole world is a picture-perfect black and white, and you are walking the steps of history with your haggis and whiskey, a tartan scarf shielding you from the biting winds that catch you at the crossings.

Old Town is stunning. 
What will you find at the other end?
New Town is also beautiful.
Charm comes in many hues. 
Any travel bug would find it impossible not to fall in love with this city, and the Christmas lights and festivities add a twinkle to the eye of this softly wrinkled place with all of the warmth, charm, and comestibles you could desire.
So many mysteries!
Cheerful Contrast
Warmth indoors!
Christmas Market and Festivities
Comestibles--and the wonderful Yasmeen!
Festival of Lights!


Berlin

Contemplating Berlin...and eating the drapes. -6-month-old Aksel
Aksel at the Aquarium, and a fish that is bigger than him!
Berlin, however, is understandably more stark. With the softening glow of Christmas gone, the winter has taken root, and Berlin is revealed to be a city ever paying for the crimes of the last century. Numerous memorials and charmless buildings remind us that 70% of the city was leveled during the Second World War, and subsequently rebuilt during the unimaginative (or too imaginative?) modern era. On occasion, you stumble upon a museum, a state building, a statue--hints of its former glory--and you are struck by how much was lost. The human losses during WWII were devastating, but my American eyes have spent little time comprehending the physical realities of the aftermath--a continent tattered and scarred, a burden of guilt that will be carried by the German people indefinitely. We pass by rows of temporary housing, and I see the commitment of a nation to move past its shameful history, and the creaking and groaning that it has been feeling as a result.

The Berlin Wall
Holocaust Memorial
One of many memorials left to ensure that Berlin never forgets its past.
The Scars of War

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Brandenburg Gate
Some of Berlin's former charm remains.
Berlin Victory Column in the Tiergarten
Tiergarten
Tiergarten
I take a stroll through the Tiergarten, breathing in the pine smell, throwing a snowball, studying the majestic monument at its heart, and I mourn that such beauty can be tainted by such evil. This is no place for romantics--it shows the world as it truly is: beautiful, broken, desperate for redemption.

Berlin